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Introverts Vs. Extroverts

Being an introvert or an extrovert is not a good or bad thing. It’s a way of describing how you preferto interact with others. But for some reason, this is a grossly misunderstood topic! Let me clear it up for you: IT’S NOT A PERSONALITY DIAGNOSIS!

Introverts are people who recharge their emotional energy by being alone. They are not “antisocial.” They like people and enjoying being around others but, because they often become emotionally invested in what others say, they become quickly drained. These people typically have less than five close friends whom they share information with. They are active listeners and they are more likely to remember your personal details. They also tend to struggle with social anxiety simply because socializing quickly becomes overwhelming to them as they actively listen to a group of twenty people.

Extroverts are people who recharge by being around others and even become more energized the longer they are in large groups. They enjoy the energy of others, listening and sharing stories, and networking. They may find that their emotional needs are not met by one person and consequently may have more than 20 close friends whom them frequently communicate with. Being alone causes them to become depressed and anxious. They are less likely to engage in solitary hobbies such as reading or doing crafts.

When an introvert and an extrovert are in relation with each other, be it romantic or parent-child, there can be a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding. Remember, this is not a personality diagnosis and simply a personality trait. Connect with each other by communicating your needs, being respectful of those needs, and taking responsibility for your socialization preferences instead of placing that responsibility on the other person. For example, demanding that an introverted child socialize more is not a respectful stance and can place stress on the child and the relationship. Encourage socialization in small groups or one-on-one and allow the child to have time to recharge in their solitary activities.

This is a great comic on understanding introverts that I often use with clients.

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